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		<title>Procrastination: Break the habit with EFT</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Do you find yourself procrastinating when you need to get things done? Use the Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) to address the underlying emotions and thought patterns of procrastination, and develop an awareness of the choice of action in each moment. Being a procrastinator is a habit you can break.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;ve been meaning to write about procrastination for some time but I just haven&#8217;t got around to it&#8230; sound familiar?</p>
<p><img src="http://www.tap4health.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/procrastination-200x300.jpg" alt="EFT procrastination" title="EFT procrastination" width="200" height="300" class="alignright size-medium wp-image-1463" />Procrastination came be obvious and subtle. There is procrastination where you set aside time to do something and then consciously do something else in that time. This might be acceptable once or twice but more than that and you are procrastinating.</p>
<p>Then there&#8217;s the more subtle form of procrastination where you think right, &#8220;I&#8217;m going to get this task done now&#8221; and the very next thought is a distraction such as, &#8220;but I&#8217;ll just check my email/facebook/twitter before I start&#8221;. This momentary distraction leads off on a tangent that you only return from some time later with another thought of right, &#8220;now I&#8217;ve really got to get this done&#8221; followed by another thought of &#8220;but first I&#8217;ll put that load of washing on and sort something out for dinner&#8221; and the pattern repeats.</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t necessarily believe that procrastination is about lack of will power or discipline. Yes you can use these brute force approaches to grit your teeth, force yourself to do things, and beat yourself up when you don&#8217;t get things done but I prefer a more gentle approach of using EFT to work on the emotions underneath the behaviour and building a habit of getting things done.</p>
<h2>So how can EFT help you with procrastination?</h2>
<p>First identify an important task or project that you have been procrastinating getting started. The sort of thing that you know needs to be done but you just haven&#8217;t got around to doing. Make sure it a specific well defined task of some importance. Write that task down and have it handy to look at while you do the following tapping sequence. You can use this <a href="/eft-tapping-points/" class="liinternal">EFT Tapping Points Guide</a>.</p>
<table border="0">
<tbody>
<tr>
<td>Karate Chop<br />
Point:</td>
<td><em>Even though I keep procrastinating instead of getting this task done, I want to accept myself.<br />
Even though, whenever I sit down to get started on this task, there always seems to be something more important to do first, I choose to become even more aware of this habit.<br />
Even though I&#8217;m annoyed at myself for not getting this task done but sometimes feel like I&#8217;m powerless to do anything differently, I choose to accept myself anyway.</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Top of Head:</td>
<td><em>Can&#8217;t get this tasked started</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Eyebrows:</td>
<td><em>Always seems to be something else wanting my attention</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Side of Eyes:</td>
<td><em>Sometimes I&#8217;m not even aware that I&#8217;m procrastinating</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Under Eyes</td>
<td><em>Got to get this done</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Under Nose:</td>
<td><em>Frustrated at myself</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Chin Point:</td>
<td><em>I should be stronger, more focused, more disciplined, have stronger will power</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Collarbones:</td>
<td><em>Why aren&#8217;t I more focused?</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Under Arms:</td>
<td><em>Maybe I&#8217;ve got ADD/ADHD; but probably not</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Wrists:</td>
<td><em>So frustrated and annoyed at myself</em></td>
</tr>
</tbody>
</table>
<p>Continue on for another round to target some of the thought patterns that accompany procrastination:</p>
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<tbody>
<tr>
<td>Top of Head:</td>
<td><em>All the excuses I can come up with for not getting this task done, like:</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Eyebrows:</td>
<td><em>There&#8217;s more I need to know before I can begin</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Side of Eyes:</td>
<td><em>I haven&#8217;t thought it all through yet</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Under Eyes</td>
<td><em>What if I don&#8217;t do it right? <a href="/perfection-is-the-lowest-standard/" class="liinternal">I have to do it perfectly the first time.</a></em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Under Nose:</td>
<td><em>I&#8217;ll look at it again tomorrow</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Chin Point:</td>
<td><em>I just not motivated right now</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Collarbones:</td>
<td><em>I&#8217;m too tired, hungry, awake, hungover, low on caffeine</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Under Arms:</td>
<td><em>It&#8217;s a Monday, Tuesday, any day ending in &#8216;y&#8217;</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Wrists:</td>
<td><em>It can wait. I work better under pressure.</em></td>
</tr>
</tbody>
</table>
<p>Now some tapping to develop the habit of noticing yourself procrastinating and recognising the choice you have in that moment.</p>
<table border="0">
<tbody>
<tr>
<td>Karate Chop<br />
Point:</td>
<td><em>Even though I can always find something else to do, I choose to notice when my attention is distracted.<br />
Even though, when I start to do this task, my mind fills with other things I want to do, I choose to catch myself before I make a move away from what I need to get done.<br />
Even though I think of myself as an expert procrastinator, I choose become even more expert at noticing when I start to become distracted and choose to respond differently when I notice myself procrastinating and bring my attention gently back to the task I want to get done.</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Eyebrows:</td>
<td><em>Noticing when my attention drifts</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Side of Eyes:</td>
<td><em>Catching myself in the gap between thought and action</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Under Eyes</td>
<td><em>Becoming even more aware when my thoughts wander</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Under Nose:</td>
<td><em>Catching myself as those other thoughts come up</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Chin Point:</td>
<td><em>Asking myself is that really more important than this, or can it wait</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Collarbones:</td>
<td><em>Gently guiding my attention back to getting this task done</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Under Arms:</td>
<td><em>Wanting to get this task completed</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Wrists:</td>
<td><em>Feeling good as I get things done and break that old habit of procrastination</em></td>
</tr>
</tbody>
</table>
<p>Like doing physical exercise, motivation is not needed to start exercising if we realise that motivation comes from that act of starting to exercise. Once we start we remember how much we enjoy it and continue on with the activity.</p>
<p>Our behaviour is shaped by our actions even more so than our thoughts. If you consistently take action you become that person. Use the above tapping consistently to break your habit of procrastinating and enjoy the satisfaction and pride of becoming someone who gets things done.<strong>Related Posts:</strong>
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<li><a href="http://www.tap4health.com/how-to-take-a-break-and-enjoy-it/" rel="bookmark" title="11 July, 2007" class="liinternal">How to Take a Break and Enjoy It!</a></li>
<li><a href="http://www.tap4health.com/always-running-late-eft/" rel="bookmark" title="17 November, 2007" class="liinternal">Using EFT for when You&#8217;re Always Running Late</a></li>
<li><a href="http://www.tap4health.com/perfection-is-the-lowest-standard/" rel="bookmark" title="19 August, 2006" class="liinternal">Perfection is the Lowest Standard</a></li>
<li><a href="http://www.tap4health.com/using-eft-for-body-image/" rel="bookmark" title="23 January, 2007" class="liinternal">Using EFT for Body Image</a></li>
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		<title>Perfection is the Lowest Standard</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 19 Aug 2006 05:39:44 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>rodsherwin</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Trying to do things perfectly can result in procrastination. The Emotional Freedom Techniques EFT allows us to address the fears that keep us stuck and overcome procrastination caused by being a perfectionist.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>How many of us are driven to do things perfectly? Whether we have taken on this belief from over zealous parents, teachers or our own high standards, the belief that we have to do everything perfectly can severely limit us and is usually the root cause of procrastination.</p>
<p>If we hold perfection in too high a regard we will not start something for fear of not doing it perfectly. Can you relate to this? This is why perfection is the lowest standard.</p>
<p>While we should always strive to do something to a high standard, in starting out we might accept what G. K. Chesterton said &#8220;Anything worth doing is worth doing badly&#8221; &#8212; at first!</p>
<p>Remember learning to drive? The first few times you couldn&#8217;t even turn on the indicator and accelerate at the same time. But eventually you were able to drive the car while drinking coffee and talking on your mobile (not necessarily a good idea <img src='http://www.tap4health.com/wordpress/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';-)' class='wp-smiley' /> .</p>
<p>So be forgiving of yourself when trying something new; give yourself permission to do it badly at first. At least then you will get started and then be able to correct your progress.</p>
<p>Think of something specific you have been putting off doing because you don&#8217;t know if you can do it perfectly and follow through the <a href="/eft-tapping-points/" class="liinternal">EFT tapping points</a> as follows:</p>
<table>
<tr>
<td>Karate Chop:</td>
<td><em>Even though I have to do this perfectly, I completely love and accept myself. Even though I don&#8217;t know how to do this and have been punished in the past for doing something badly, I give myself permission to make mistakes as I learn this. Even though I haven&#8217;t started this because I am afraid of making mistakes, I completely love and accept myself.</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Head:</td>
<td><em>Afraid of doing this badly</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Eyebrows:</td>
<td><em>Fear of making mistakes</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Side of Eyes:</td>
<td><em>I have to do this perfectly</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Under Eyes</td>
<td><em>I forgive myself for making mistakes as I learn</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Under Nose:</td>
<td><em>What if I do this wrong?</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Chin Point:</td>
<td><em>The consequences are too scary</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Collarbones:</td>
<td><em>I&#8217;m not allowed to make mistakes or I&#8217;ll be punished</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Under Arms:</td>
<td><em>I have to do this tapping perfectly</em></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Wrists:</td>
<td><em>I completely love and accept myself doing something badly at first because at least then I&#8217;ll get started</em></td>
</tr>
</table>
<p>You might want to do a few more rounds about your specific situation. Maybe you can recall some times when your were punished for not being perfect and tap around those as well.</p>
<p>Remember to own your mistakes. It is only by acknowledging what we have done that we can change it. &#8220;Correct, don&#8217;t protect.&#8221; &#8212; Keith Cunningham.<strong>Related Posts:</strong>
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