Lindsay’s talk covered how simple it can be to overcome procrastination and included:

• The most common causes for procrastination and how to figure out if any of these are effecting you
• The two emotions that are typically behind procrastination (you’ll be surprised by one of them!)
• Tapping statements that you can use immediately to get results

This interview is definitely worth listening to. It’s one of those “kick in the butt” things we all need to listen to from time to time.

Listen to the interview and while you’re there tap along with Margaret Lynch on “Tapping for More Clients in Your Business”Related Posts:

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I’m curious, how does watching or hearing the news makes you feel: fearful, sad, depressed, helpless, frustrated, angry, suspicious? Are these the emotions you really want to consistently condition into your energy system?

Yes there is the very occasional snippet of good news amongst all the death, crime, politics, and bloodshed but it is very much in the minority.

I often hear from people that you have to watch the news so that you know what’s going on in the world. My response to this statement is “why?” Of the many things that are presented to us in the News, very few affect us directly and, more importantly, are within our sphere of influence to do something about. If we can’t do anything about what is being presented this brings up the feelings of frustration, anger, guilt, fear etc.

I’m not saying to stick your head in the sand and ignore what is going on in the wider world. I am saying that you need to consciously guard against the negative conditioning of your energy system for your long-term health and well-being.

Choose when and how often you’re exposed to the News and you will find that your overall outlook on life will improve plus you’ll find yourself forming your own opinions versus those thrust upon you by the mainstream media.

Here is some EFT that may help with the effect of News on your nervous system. Using this EFT tapping points guide, start and continue tapping on the indicated points while saying:

Continue for another round:

Try tapping while you watch TV and notice just how much your system relaxes and releases. You will be surprised and empowered. Remember you have choice and responsibility for your own well-being.Related Posts:

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Here is some tapping which will help you to ease the strain. Identify one person in the gathering and one thing that they do, have done, or will do that upsets you in some way.

Using this tapping points guide, start on the karate chop point with:

You may need to do 5 or 6 rounds to cover all the different aspects of their behaviour. Its worth it to have a peaceful and enjoyable gathering.

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Because of the unorthodox structure of my sessions as compared to mainstream therapy, James had come to feel comfortable with me and the first real breakthrough came when I gave him permission to tap on something without having to explain it to me. We tapped together as he cried for a good 15 minutes without words and then he exclaimed, “It feels like you just saved my life!” He mentioned his mother was involved but I did not press for more details at the time.

In our most recent session, James was still reluctant to answer questions. What he did share was that he really had not expected anything to change or work because he really didn’t want it to. (Psychological Reversal anyone?). The only reason he had been turning up to the sessions was because he had paid for them. This was even after he had experienced the previous significant release.

I had James lead me through several rounds of tapping with him making up the phrases which included things like:

“This won’t work”
“Nothing ever changes”
“Nothing will work”
“Nothing ever does”
“I don’t want things to change”

and then a subtle shift occurred…

“I don’t have to change”
“I’m fine the way I am”
“There’s nothing wrong with me”

This is a huge cognitive shift after years of being told that something was wrong with him.

After this round of tapping, I asked James some questions about “How will you notice a small improvement in your interaction with others?”

Again, he was reluctant to answer and explained that he felt trapped behind a barrier with part of him wanting to get out from the barrier and invest himself in a conversation and part of him feeling safe there. We tapped around the desire to stay within the barrier and the desire to interact with others and accepting the conflict within.

After some time exploring the barrier, a light came on in James’ eyes and he shared that he always kept barriers up against questions because his mother had always asked him lots of intrusive, shaming and frustrating question. His whole way of interacting with others was based around avoiding having to answer questions. It was the fear of having to answer questions that kept his defences up. My previous questioning to get to the deeper issues only triggered this defensive pattern.

With this insight, I tapped along with James as he explored all the feelings of his mother asking him “impossible, shaming” questions. I reminded him that he had permission to tap without explanation. He would only say words out loud if he wanted to, otherwise I just kept following him along as he tapped. It took several rounds with an occasional “this is not going to change anything” thrown in.

At the end of the session, James had a look of real peace on his face and was grateful to feel the changes in himself. He was hopeful and optimistic about how things would be different.

Originally published in Gary Craig’s EFT Insights Newsletter.Related Posts:

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We tapped on the frustration of learning and using English and the frustration of not being able to express herself and not being able to make herself clearly understood. After each round of tapping, when she imagined the bubble and the window, the window would be larger and larger.

In the following week, Bonnie reported being much more relaxed in her ability to talk in English and found that the words flowed more easily.

Even if English is your primary language we all feel frustrated at times with our ability to express what we’re thinking or feeling. See if you can remember a specific situation in which you struggle to express yourself and try some of these phrases:

• Even though I struggle to say what I’m feeling, I choose to stay calm.
• Even though I get flustered under pressure and blurt out something I don’t mean and hurt others, I choose to forgive myself for saying these things.
• Even though I’m hurt when others don’t understand how I’m feeling, I completely love and accept myself and take responsibility for my part in communicating how I feel.
• Even though I don’t think I’m smart enough to use fancy words to explain myself, I choose to remember that $5 words can be just as effective as $50 words.

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