Many of us who know and use EFT have a desire to help others. But how do we balance this calling with our responsibilities and duties as adults? Here’s an extract from an email I received from a recent newsletter subscriber:
I have a really strong desire, calling if you wish, to help others and not in the ‘conventional’ sense – and I believe this is what has drawn me to EFT as well as many other alternative modalities. I feel constantly torn between wanting to make a difference and thinking I should get a ‘real’ job. I’m always battling against myself and my wish to move forward. I know I can make a difference I just have to convince myself I can do it!
I’m an unemployed, single parent – I feel very limited as to what I’m able to achieve with very limited income and feel discriminated against because of this – my choices and opportunities are thus very limited accordingly. I feel a burden on society and feel pressured by family and social security to just ‘get a job’ – so I’m torn between my ‘duty’ & ‘expectations’ and my soul’s desire.
Here was my response, “I can very much relate to what you are going through with the conflict of wanting to help people versus getting a ‘real job’. Regardless of appearances, for the last 3 years that since I started Tap4Health, I have been scratching, scraping, negotiating, and sometimes failing to make ends meet each month. This has put a horrendous stress on my mind and body. If it were not for energy techniques such as EFT I would have given up long ago. Even this week, I went for an interview for a full time IT contract so that I can have some consistent income and catch up on debts that are backing up. I’m not giving up on Tap4Health! No way! I’m finding a way to support myself financially and hence mentally, emotionally, and physically while I continue to build my practice. Yes I’ll have to do even more work in the short term but I know my purpose for working.
What I’m saying is that being self-employed and building a business is very hard. There is a reason that 95% of business fail within the first 2 years and 98% within 5 years. And here’s something that makes it even clearer: “It’s not how good you are at something (e.g. EFT); it’s how good you are at marketing what you do that determines your success.”
I know this may not be what you want to hear. There is a lot of stuff out there about “Do what you love, and the money will follow.” That has not been my experience. Nor the experience of the people I know who are very successful. I know of only handful of EFTers who make a living solely from EFT. One of them worked a full time job for the first 5 years of building his practice and then part time for another 2 years before finally going full time.
You might also think, “Well, Rod must still have some limiting beliefs about his income or he’s not doing that law of attraction thing right.” Maybe. The landlord, banks and credit card companies don’t care about those things and won’t wait while you sort them out. They just care about whether you pay your bills or not.
Having a ‘day job’ while you continue to build your EFT and business skills(!) is being a responsible adult (more on this in a minute). You can enjoy any job if you are doing it for a purpose. I don’t like the idea of doing the type of IT work I used to do but I know that I’m doing it to help me build my business even faster. By clearing debts and having the income to do more marketing means that I can build my practice even faster. Try to build the practice and live off the income at the same time is a really hard way to do it.
Further, on being a responsible adult who fulfils their duties and expectations, it’s worth using EFT to tap on the resistance to taking responsibility. Anything we had too much of as a child we tend to resist as an adult. If you took on or felt you had lots of responsibility as a child then you may resist being a responsible adult. Find some specific events from your childhood when you felt like you had to be responsible and tap around those events. Also, tap on the conflict you feel at getting a job versus doing your calling. Remember that you are doing your day job with a purpose to meet your needs and support yourself and your family while you build your practice. It’s great if you can get a job that will help you learn the business skills you need to be successful in your own business. Again, focus on working with a purpose.
The world needs people like you who have such an open heart and desire to help others. And, taking care of yourself is not being selfish! You cannot help others if you are not taking good care of yourself. We all have the capacity to give but if we ourselves are not taken care of then we have a very limited capacity to help others. The more we help ourselves the more we can help others. Would you rather write a cheque to your favourite charity for $10 or for $1,000? Only the person who has taken good care of themselves can do the later.
It will take hard work to move from where you are now to where you want to be. If that feels overwhelming or tiring then tap on that. Focus on making some small progress towards your dreams every day while taking care of yourself on every level and your life WILL TRANSFORM. It all takes time so take care of yourself as you continue on your journey.”
I’m curious about your experience. How do you react to the above? Let me know your thoughts in the comments.