Fear of what will other people will think of me?
Sometimes we find ourselves limited because of worry about what others will think, for example:
- “I can’t go out with that guy because my friends won’t like him”
- “I can’t take the afternoon off work because they’ll think I’m a slacker”
- “I can’t apply for that job because they’ll think I’m getting above myself”
- “We have to have a new car because otherwise the neighbours will think we’re broke”
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Sometimes it’s ‘they’ in general, sometime it’s a specific person. Pay attention to your thoughts and see how often the idea of what someone else will think limits or controls what you do.
When you identify a specific situation where worry about what other’s think is holding back, you can apply EFT, using this EFT tapping points guide, as follows:
| Karate Chop Point: |
Even though I’m worried about they will think if I do this, I deeply and completely accept myself Even though I have to keep up appearances, I choose to be true to myself Even though they might make fun of and humiliate me, I choose to feel safe and secure and own my own power. |
| Top of Head: | Fear of what they’ll think of me |
| Eyebrows: | Couldn’t bear the thought |
| Side of Eyes: | If they find out, I’ll be so embarrassed |
| Under Eyes | Better to just go with the flow |
| Under Nose: | What would they say about me if I did that? |
| Chin Point: | What will they think of me? |
| Collarbones: | But I really want this |
| Under Arms: | I have to fit in; be part of the group |
| Wrists: | They’ll think I’m crazy |
Continue on for another round:
| Top of Head: | I choose to listen to my own guidance |
| Eyebrows: | I’m my own person |
| Side of Eyes: | What they think says more about them then it does about me |
| Under Eyes | What other people think of me is none of my business |
| Under Nose: | I choose to be true to myself |
| Chin Point: | I love and accept all of myself |
| Collarbones: | I ask for inner guidance and wisdom in making this choice |
| Under Arms: | Being true to myself is the most important thing |
| Wrists: | It’s time I grew up and made my own choices |
Do a few more rounds of tapping focusing on any need to rebel which might be also be driving your behaviour. Somewhere between compliance and rebellion is the middle path of wisdom.
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Tags: fear, relationships, stress
