I explored this aspect of having more than enough income after all my expenses and a lot of different aspect came up:

• It’s a waste to have more than I need
• It’s wrong to have so much when others have so little
• I’m not allowed to ‘waste’ that money on toys, clothes, entertainment
• I’d lose my motivation if I had it so easy
• I’ll be foolish with money if I have too much
• I’d feel guilty if I had it that good
• People would hassle me to do things I don’t want to do now that I have the money; not having the money is a great excuse for not doing something
• If I didn’t have to work so hard then what would my life be about?
• People will think I’m lazy if I don’t have to work hard
• I will become a target for scams. It’s not safe for me to have too much
• It’s not good for others for me to have disposable income because they’ll won’t feel good in themselves
• …??

After all the things I’ve tapped on around financial abundance over the years, I was really surprised, and pleased, to discover so many aspects when I thought of having more than enough money. I applied EFT to each of these aspects over and over until I felt sure that I had dealt with them.

Here’s a few rounds of EFT tapping to get you started on investigating and clearing all the aspects of having disposable income. You can use this handy tapping points guide:

It may seem silly to focus on having disposable income when you’re not even making ends meet but sometimes focusing beyond your existing goals to what’s after that can break you through to surprising new levels very quickly.

By the way, I actually prefer the term “discretionary income” as opposed to disposable income since I would like to spend any extra money that I have with due care and attention (with discretion) rather than the disposing of it, which, to me, sounds like just throwing it in the trash!Related Posts:

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Some studies suggest we have around 50,000 – 60,000 thoughts per day. How many of those thoughts are habitual, ingrained, conditioned, and limit us in some way?

If we have that many thoughts a day, how do we even notice an individual thought? Often it is a thought that is linked to strong emotion that catches our attention.

Recently, I noticed a pattern of mine that showed up when I was hungry. The pattern would start about half an hour before I would usually eat. My thoughts would get into a discussion something like,

“I’ll have to do something about eating soon”
“I don’t want to eat, I’m busy working”
“But I can’t concentrate unless I eat”
“I’ve got too much to do. I don’t want to eat now”
and so on…

I noticed the recurring thought in these mental conversation of “I don’t want to eat”. So I stopped for a moment and checked in on that particular thought. I said it both mentally and out loud to get a feel for the origin of the thought.

When I said “I don’t want to eat” out loud, it sounded very petulant like a small child rebelling against being fed. I could easily image myself as a willful child not wanting to eat when my mother wanted to feed me. Even without knowing a specific event, I could imagine myself as a small child and apply EFT to the event, the thought, and the feelings that went with it.

What thought have you noticed repeating in your thinking? There are probably quite a few. Pick one (at a time) and say that thought to yourself and out loud. Notice the emotion that accompanies the thought. If you could get a sense at around what age this thought comes from what would it be? What scene can you imagine would match this thought and emotion?

Make a note of the thought, the emotion, and the imagined scene or sense of origin for this one thought.

Once you have the thought, emotion, and sense of the origin of the thought the apply this EFT sequence using this EFT tapping points guide:

Remember to repeat the tapping for a few rounds until you feel you have cleared all the emotions around the thought.

To test if you’re done, say the thought to yourself and out loud again and see if it feels the same or has changed in some way. Notice what’s different now about that thought since you performed EFT on it.

One of the trickiest things to do is notice something that no longer happens. Check yourself in a few days and see if you can remember having that same thought that you tapped on. If you have done a thorough job with EFT, the only way to have that thought is to think it on purpose! It’s no longer happening on automatic.Related Posts:

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At the recent Mind Body Spirit Festival, I helped four different people with Whiplash. Whiplash is an injury caused when the head snaps forward and then back again and is most often associated with a rear-end collision in a motor vehicle.

Symptoms reported by sufferers of Whiplash include: pain and aching to the neck and back, referred pain to the shoulders, sensory disturbance (such as pins and needles) to the arms & legs and headaches.

I treated people with Whiplash from 30 years ago to 2 days ago. One person had experienced a head ache for 10 years after a car accident. For each person, using 5-10 minutes of EFT, they were able to completely relieve the neck and back pain associated with the whiplash. (Bet the car and medical insurance companies want to know about EFT now!)

If you have ever experience a car accident or similar trauma to neck and spine be sure to apply EFT to the memory even if you have no obvious symptoms. Your body remembers the trauma and may still be compensating. Here’s an EFT sequence that can get you started (use this EFT tapping points guide):

After a few rounds, reassess your pain and range of movement, taking care of your own physical wellbeing. Usually, after a few rounds, the pain will move or change in some way. Continue chasing the pain, and come up with a new focusing phrase for the new location of the pain and continue applying EFT until there is no trace left.Related Posts:

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• going to a religious establishment regularly with no interest, because you think you should
• working in a career you’re unhappy with, because you think you should
• donating money to a charity, because you think you should
• agreeing with what someone says even when you don’t, because you think you should
• studying for a degree that doesn’t interest you, because you think you should

Some of these activities are important AND I’m asking you to check in on your motivation for doing these things. Are you doing them because they give you a deep sense of fulfillment and contribute to your happiness, or are you doing them because you think you should? One feels like being drawn forward, one feels like being pushed; and who likes to be pushed around?

Think about the activities that fill your life and identify something that feels like a “should”. You’re not really enjoying it and if you felt you had a choice, you would rather be doing something else. Identify one thing that your doing and apply the following EFT sequence using this EFT tapping points
guide:

Depending on your investment in the activity you may not be able to change your path immediately. If it’s a change of career, you still need to pay the bills while you change careers. But if you can make little improvements each day that move you towards what you want and away from what you don’t want, letting go of the shoulds and embracing the joy along the way, your life will definitely change for the better.Related Posts:

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Striving is that feeling that you have to have more, do more, or be more. It’s that feeling that just over the hill is the pot of gold and if you can just push on for a little longer you will receive the rewards. We can end up striving because of delayed gratification. That principle that says you can’t be happy until…

I got told a lot of this when growing up. If you study hard in school you will get into University. So I focused on my studies and disciplined myself to work hard until Uni. Then when I got to Uni, I was told that, if you work hard at Uni, you’ll get a good job. So I studied hard at Uni and passed all my subjects.

Then you get a job and your told, work hard, sacrifice, and you’ll get a promotion. So you work hard and sacrifice your personal and social life until you get that promotion. Then another carrot is dangled in front of you and the pattern repeats until retirement when you are finally given permission to relax and enjoy life. But how many years have you missed out on while you were focusing on the future, on being happy when?

So when are you allowed to feel happy? When is it Ok to stop and enjoy the moment? When is what you’ve done enough? When are you allowed to feel that you are enough?

Self improvement can be a similar striving trap: “I just need to read one more book, attend one more seminar, learn one more technique and then I’ll be … enough? For what?”

I found this feeling of striving manifested in my body with shin splints. That painful feeling in the front of your shins that makes it very painful to run and even walk. My brain wanted to go faster, to be somewhere ahead of me now, but my body wouldn’t cooperate.

I believe that is one feeling we are striving for. That feeling of being enough right now. Here’s how to apply EFT to the causes of striving. Use this EFT tapping points guide:

Western culture is driven by striving and needing more. Other cultures can teach us not only about having enough but also about accepting ourselves as enough right now. Let me know what comes up for you as you tap through this sequence. If further feelings arise be sure to continue tapping until you uncover all the layers.

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And some of us, me included, bottle it up until it bursts out like a volcano surprising everyone around us with the intensity because we had not even given a hint that anything was wrong.

I’m going to focus on the last pattern as this is one that I can speak about from personal experience. As a child, I had been labelled as having “a bad temper” at times but, if I accept this label, then I give away my responsibility for control of my behaviour. We are not the victim of our emotions. There are patterns to every emotion that, if we can identify them, we can interrupt the pattern and change our behaviour before it causes the damage we so fear.

So how does your pattern of anger develop?

I delivered an outburst of anger one evening with my family that stunned everyone. But it wasn’t as instantaneous as it may have seemed. The anger had been brewing throughout the day from one incident early in the day which annoyed me. Another a little later on that added to the fire. And from then on I was looking for an excuse to unload at the slightest further provocation. So when I received one further barb, an oh so minor one, I unloaded with full power that was equivalent to swatting a fly with a barbell.

Had I taken the time to apply EFT at the first perceived slight and got deep into and under the anger then I may have been able to voice my concerns with out the associated outburst.

Here I present a longer EFT script that I hope will help you as it did me to change your anger pattern. I spent at least half an hour using the various parts of this to work on my anger pattern.

First you need to start with how you feel in yourself about the anger. Start and continue tapping on the EFT tapping points while saying the phrases:

Continue to tap for a few rounds to cover everything you feel and say about and to yourself about how you behaved.

Now we will use EFT to work on the pattern around the anger.

Noticing how your anger builds helps unravel the mystery of full blown explosions that nobody sees coming. You then have the ability to notice what is triggering your anger and clear those individual triggers. Maybe it’s a tone of voice or a look you receive which starts to get you angry. So do some tapping on the trigger e.g.

There may be more than one trigger to your anger so continue to tap on each trigger that contributes to your anger pattern.

You may still have shame, guilt, and regret about what happened so here is a final round to do some more clearing.

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EFT is usually applied to clear some emotional issue or problem. Yet it can also be used to take positive feelings into your energy system.

So what inspires you? What gives you a lift when you are feeling down? Maybe a piece of poetry or scripture or a funny photo or song.

For this example, I’m going to use the famous poem by Marianne Williamson used by Nelson Mandela in his acceptance speech. You can find the poem on this page if you scroll down.

Start and continue tapping on the EFT points while saying the phrases:

How good did that feel? Maybe you’ll even repeat the process once more. Feeling good is good for you. It improves you health, raises your vibration, and lifts the spirits.Related Posts:

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Maybe they have passed on since last Christmas and this is your first Christmas without them. Maybe they have other plans, or maybe they just can’t make it this year.

Whatever the reason for their absence, here’s how EFT can lighten your spirit. Using this EFT tapping points guide, start and continue tapping on the indicated points while saying:

Continue on with another round:

If this opens up even deeper feelings then please continue tapping using your own words until you clear all the issues this raises.

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Here’s a way you can use EFT to improve your relationship with time. Using this EFT tapping points guide, start and continue tapping on the Karate Chop Point while saying:

Continue on for another round:

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Song Stuck in Head

We’ve all experienced having a song stuck in our head looping as if on continuous playback. The German language even has a word for it, “ohrwurm” which means “ear-worm”.

So can EFT help with the song? It is my belief that the song is repeating because your subconscious mind is trying to convey a message. A bit like a dream that contains strange symbols and experiences, the song itself has a subtle message for your benefit.

A simple way to tune into the message is continuously tap through the EFT points whilst listening to the song. This will clear any emotional experiences that you associate with the song and may give you some insights into why it has been stuck in your head.

Alternatively, you can apply the following tapping to get the message behind the song. In this example, I will use “this song” and you can be even more specific by using the actual name of the song if you know it.

Using this EFT tapping points guide, start and continue tapping on the Karate Chop Point while saying:

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