Look past the material possesion (items 2, 6, 10) you have identified on the list and work the issues such as “spending quality time with my daughter”, “I would be an adult”, and “I would have a mate who is my equal”. How specifically would these you life be different and what would you do differently each day if these things were true already? What would other notice was different about what you did with you day, about the way you acted? What would your daughter notice if these issues were no longer a problem for you?

EFT us not a magic wand so this will require work on your part. My final question would be, “if you would no longer thing about money” what would you think about instead? And make a deliberate effort, added by EFT to change the habit, to think about what it is you want and how to move towards it, versus thinking about money.

1. I would no longer think about it.
2. My daughter would have all the toys she wants and that I want.
3.I would spend tons of quality time with my daughter.
4. I would be with a mate who is my equal.
5. I would have more children.
6. I would drive new German autos of all kinds.
7. My body would look perfect to me.
8. I would be happy because I am proud of me.
9. I would be an adult alas.
10. I would have purchased all those clothings at New York & Co that I fell in love with recently.
11. I’d look fabulous fashion-wise, and so would by daughter.
12. My daughter and I would both be working models and actresses.
13. (more to come)

….Now, I am new to EFT. I Loved this question. Can anyone tell me how to process this information next with EFT? What am I looking to do to shift my relationship to money? rondamommie@yahoo.com

The ideas that ‘we get more of what we focus on’ and that ‘energy follows attention’ suggests that this way of thinking can really turn things around from focusing on the problem to focusing on the solution.

One way to use your list would be to tap it in at least once a day (or twice, or thrice!) As you tap in what you want more of, any of the old thoughts that surface will be receiving the tapping treatment as you go along. Tap on each point and say one of the sentences above. You don’t need to use the stand “Even though …” phrasing just tap the sentence straight in as you wrote it and really savour and enjoy the feelings that are invoked by those good thoughts.

Here are my answers around weight loss and food obsession.

Q: How would I know if food was no longer a problem for me?

A:
• I accept lunch and dinner invitations without thinking, “I really shouldn’t go, I’m on a diet (or I’ll be on a diet).”
• I go on vacation and enjoy the experience without fretting about how much weight I may have gained.
• I use food as fuel.
• I consider food my friend and not the enemy. It is pleasurable.
• I stand on the scales and am delighted by the number (right now I’m avoiding the scales and I’ve rarely been happy with the number I’ve seen)
• I no longer chase a weight loss solution because I don’t need it.
• I easily and effortlessly retain my healthy weight and NEVER boomerang back up again.
• When food is one of the last things on my mind, not the main thing on my mind.
• I realise I can lose weight easily and effortlessly no matter what I eat.
• I love my body and am proud to show it off.
• I buy clothes to suit my beautiful body instead of hide it.
• I contemplate life instead of my next meal.
• I eat because I am hungry and listen to my body for what it desires.
• I realize that there are other tools to solve my problems.
• I focus on more important things, food is rarely part of my conversation.
• Going to the grocery store is not an exercise in temptation and making myself feel guilty.
• I get excited about going to dinner to catch up with friends, not pig out.
• I wake up feeling great instead of reviewing if I’d been ‘good’ or ‘bad’ the previous day.
• I have other ways to make myself feel good / celebrate / feel better.
• I am free.

Thanks
Belinda